Sibling Support

my brother sister love meWelcome to the TCF NSW dedicated sibling page. This page is designed to provide you (or your parents/grandparents/carers) with some resources to access and a way of getting in contact with some people if you need to. We welcome you to our family of support.

Sibling grief is often misunderstood and we are hoping to create a space to share, learn and manage the grieving process together. Please feel free to contribute to the page by emailing This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.. We welcome your writing, clips, music, poems or other resources that you think will help your other grieving brothers and sisters of all ages. This is a safe space and we will screen all information to ensure it is appropriate, respectful and kind toward everyone.

Don't forget to have a look at our FOCUS newsletter editions. Each FOCUS has a dedicated area for siblings.

Grieving siblings can also become a member of TCF NSW. Membership is free and you can fill out and send the membership forms from here. Members have access to the latest FOCUS edition online and can participate in the member's forum where a dedicated category is provided for siblings.

You will find some support brochures and a presentation by Carly Fisher, a bereaved sibling (Nic, 12 years old) who is also now a registered psychologist. You will also find some sibling contributions. Please feel free to contribute some of your own work by emailing our This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

To start us off, here is the Sibling Credo. Enjoy having a look around this page and take care in this difficult journey. We need not walk alone.

The Sibling's Credo

We are the surviving siblings of The Compassionate Friends.

We are brought together by the deaths of our brothers and sisters.

Open your hearts to us, but have patience with us. Sometimes we will need the support of our friends. At other times we need our families to be there. Sometimes we must walk alone, taking our memories with us, continuing to become the individuals we want to be.

We cannot be our dead brother or sister; however, a special part of them lives on with us.

When our brothers and sisters died, our lives changed. We are living a life very different from what we envisioned, and we feel the responsibility to be strong even when we feel weak. Yet we can go on because we understand better than many others the value of family and the precious gift of life.

Our goal is not to be the forgotten mourners that we sometimes are, but to walk together to face our tomorrows as surviving siblings of The Compassionate Friends.

Sibling Support Resources

KidsArt 2Sibling Chapter and Meeting

A dedicated sibling chapter has been establised within TCF NSW. This chapter meets monthly and is for anyone, of any age who have lost a sibling. It is held on the last Thursday of each month at the York Street Centre in Sydney. Please contact Maree on 0403 796 118 for further details.

Sibling Presentation

A Presentation on Sibling Grief by Carly Jayet (nee Fisher) - bereaved sibling and registered psychologist

Sibling Support Brochures

Some dedicated brochures to help support grieving siblings:

When a Brother or Sister Dies

Surviving the Suicide of Your Brother or Sister

Sibling Sipport Links

Below are a number of dedicated sibling support sites or thise with dedicated sibling support pages:

Screen Shot 2014-03-14 at 11.34.28 pm The National Centre for Childhood Grief - Provides loving support in a safe place where children grieving a death can share their experience as they learn to live with its impact on their lives.
   
   
Screen Shot 2014-03-14 at 11.42.24 pm The Bereavement C.A.R.E. Centre - The Centre's goals are to provide comprehensive and accessible counselling and support services for the terminally ill and their families, and for those recently bereaved (i.e. approximately the first two years after the death of someone with whom they have a significant relationship).
   
   
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Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement (Grieving Adolescents) - The Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement is an independent, not for profit organisation which opened in January 1996 and is the largest provider of grief and bereavement education in Australia. They have a dedicated page for grieving adolescents

   
   
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The Dougy Center (Help for Teens) - The Dougy Center provides support in a safe place where children, teens, young adults, and their families grieving a death can share their experiences. They provide support and training locally, nationally and internationally to individuals and organizations seeking to assist children in grief.

   
   
Screen Shot 2014-09-14 at 6.58.12 pm   Loss of a Sibling Forum - Grief support groups for coping with loss of a sibling, online bereavement forums offering help with grieving the death of a brother or sister.